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WHAT CLIENTS ARE SAYING
"Thank-you for this service, it is such an embarassing problem to have that I can't talk to anyone about it. Your support is well needed and greatly appreciated." - Anonymous
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"From a lot of videos i saw about this subject, yours seem to be the most honest and true.
I am sure that anything can be a trigger, as you say. The human perversity can go so far, almost infinitely far. The human soul and mind can be, in good and in bad, so deep, only God knows how much." - Anonymous
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"cool! i know he's right, but he makes me feel like a computer, with inaccesible hardware and an anti-virus security. lol.. ^_^ very good knowledge though" - Anonymous
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"excellent!
very useful!"
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"what a great great lecture this is!
so plausible!
this just might help!
God bless you mister!"
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Sir, thankyou verymuch for explaining the psychology of Pornography addiction, it was really helpful for me!!!
- Anonymous
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"God bless you for your concern about my issue with pornography. I watched the first part of "pornography and the brain" series and it really makes sense."
- Anonymous
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"this is very very useful..thanx. I really appreciate this expert. He can say what i've been going through in technical terms. would love to see more videos from this guy."
- Anonymous (post from youtube)
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"I cannot tell you how grateful I am. over the last few days I have been really tempted but I just reread your messages and think and from that God grants me the strength to resist temptation" - Anonymous
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THANK YOU
Thank you very much for posting your videos about the anatomy of pornography addiction. I felt myself being pulled towards slipping from a trigger, but managed to find my way to your videos instead.
Thank you very much, I will continue to learn how to live with these desires and better control them. You truly have done something to help my day, and I am very glad you posted your work on youtube.
Thank you very much, again.
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"Thanks also for creating that manual because it has worked for me when other methods have failed, a step in the right direction. So thanks."
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"I loved it. It gave me a whole different perspective to this problem and ideas on help to be more supportive."
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"I have the privilege of meeting with Gordon individually although I have to drive a great distance. I was greatly impressed with the Presentation and felt like it could help many others. It really would be nice to have therapists trained in the InnerGold system..."
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"I have been doing the InnerGold program via the manual for a bit over two months now and am finding much help in it. I have tried everything including counselors, 12 step groups and other recovery programs through church and so forth for the last 20 years and more, and sobriety has lasted at the most 4 months or so at a time in all that time. I feel more hope again now..."
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"One of the most helpful things has been learning to recognize the addictive voice, and learning that there really is this part of me and that part of me and naming IT as that other part. I fear slips with such a passion... I find the most hope now in that I haven't had a slip for over two months..."
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"...hope that I might be able to interact with someone that can counsel me using the IG principles. Dr. Bruin has given me some hope and it's the only program that seems to make sense."
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Just wanted to write and encourage you on all of the great work you are doing. Thanks for your post the other week on YouTube. I guess my outspoken blogs on the dangers of porn are not viewed kindly by the critics, but great to see other professionals speaking out on the topic (especially from a therapeutic perspective). My team of Clinical and Neuro-Psychologists sat down and watched your teaching on the Limbic system earlier this week. Congratulations on your clear instructive and empowering blogs. Keep up your great work Gordon.
Dr Robi S.
Clinical Psychologist, Director
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"I went to a coffee shop today and read chapter 2 of the Treatment Program and I can say I was moved to tears over what I read. Tears of sadness for gravity of the problem and others who have been so much more affected than me, and tears of joy for finally having a clear explanation of the problem and the hope that still exists. For the first time in my life I am not afraid of this disease and feel forewarned and forearmed to fight this head on. I also realized today that if it comes to it, I am prepared to go public and tell those I love what's been going on in my life. I've never considered that as an option before, or at least one I was prepared to take. This has been one of the most liberating days of my life since realizing I had this problem...."
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Thank you Gordon Bruin for a wealth of onto it information , I appreciate your efforts to help people like myself who have used porngraphic images and masturbation as a 'fix' for the lack of a feeling of self acceptance and self love in the core of my being....
Thankyou I am truly inspired by you and your work, :-)
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OH!, holy moley you guys made me realize
i have an addiction to porn because im afraid of being hurt by another girl like before!...
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Thank you very much for describing such a complicating subject so patiently and thoroughly. It has helped me invaluably in my own recovery.
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thank you very much for that insightful subjects am actually thankful and (edited from: for that hoping) hoping to get more. God bless you! - CS
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Gordon's treatment package is an innovative mix of a range of evidence-based interventions, including motivational interviewing, cognitive restructuring, mindfulness and behavior therapy, informed on a solid foundation of neuroscience. I say this as a clinical psychologist who is finding his treatment package fantastic. All these components are evidence based and have multiple foundations in peer-reviewed research. What he has done is a synthesis of these components.
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"...We are thrilled that he got to this point, and your service played a huge role in helping him get there. Thanks for coaching him, and for these constant reminders."
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"thanks for the video on innergold with gordon bruin. he talks about the two part brain on that nine part presentation. it was very interesting. it helps to know our addiction and to be able to prolong our recovery. it made me understand better about our two part brain. i think you get plenty of credit for doing the best job that you are doing. thanks again." - Anonymous (kept confidential)
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"Thank you very much for everything you've been doing for this suffering human kind. You are a good man. I don't think it would be an exaggeration if I say that information from your web site saved my life [and lives of lots of other people]. I wish there are much more people like you in this world. Thank you very much. And again, thank you very much."
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The B.L.A.S.T thing is so on the money. Whenever i feel down and out, tired, etc. is the times when my desire to watch porn suddenly kicks in. ...
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"I thank God for innergold,you know what guyz!I never had to read everything you guys have been sending me to change my mind and my inner person. I just read a few and started meditating on them and practicing them, I later started changing and ... I LOVE YOU GUYS... YOU WERE SENT OF GOD."
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"This was the most informative and reassuring presentation that I have participated in over the last couple of years as I have searched for help in supporting loved ones through this problem. You and your team are an answer to prayer. The information discussed was also helpful to me as an individual in understanding myself and my motivations."
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"Thanks for the encouragements guys. Yes the "cautious optimism" is exactly where I'm at and it makes perfect sense! Interestingly, it is markedly different from the "unrealistic optimism" I had once at a time I had achieved sobriety before Innergold's help. I mistakenly but understandably started to think I had the problem beat and this caused me to relax my thoughts and let my mind wander to the places it shouldn't, it wasn't long before the pull of the tide caught me and dragged me way out beyond my depth. Now I'm doing the activities even when I don't think I need them, I'm not even allowing certain thoughts to settle in my head before I've moved them on and it's amazing how easy it is to pull up the weed before it has taken root. The key is now eternal vigilance to ensure it never does.
It feels so good to understand this stuff and begin to gain mastery over it. I never thought I'd reach the day."
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"im a 40 year old male who has been an addict since my early teen years.here is how it started.as a young kid in the early 1980s like most kids i stumbled upon a porn magazine while riding bikes with my friends.then i would come across it while visiting friends who had relatives that had the stuff hidden in the house,garage etc.then when i turned 18 i would only rent porn movies once in a while.i have never bought a porn movie or a magazine.i would however stumble across a magazine i found somewhere.and keep it for a while for the purpose of masterbating.then in the 1990s on come the seen of the power of the internet.i learn to use the internet in 2000 and that open the flood gates.i would find pictures on the free tours of the sites then i started finding multipule free pictures.free 10 second videos became free 2 to 10 minute videos.then came the free file sharing sites full movies.for what its worth i have never paid for porn.i dont know why i never bought videos or magazines. but i know im a major addict.i have recently destroyed every bit of porn i had.i want to say this that almost 2 years ago i tried to quit and it lasted around 28 days then i saw an image of a naked woman pop up on my computer and limbic part of my brain hijacked the prefrontal cortex and i went right back to it.had i been armed with the knowledge i got from your videos recently.i would have been able to see what was going on in my brain and could have said (IT) wants me to look at porn. i been managing my addiction for over a week now.im going to finish this letter to you gordon by saying thank you so much for everything you are doing to help addicts MANAGE this addiction, and i look forward to continue coming to innergold for more information while im on my life time journey managing my addiction.may god bless you,and god bless all the staff at innergold.com" - W
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Listen to a letter received from a client.
"I cannot tell you how grateful I am. Over the last few days, I have been really tempted but I just reread your messages and think and from that God grants me the strength to resist temptation" - GM
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"Thanks for this enlightening and beneficial information. This is very helpful in understanding the physical aspects of sexual addiction." - RW
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About a year ago I became acquainted with InnerGold and Gordon Bruin. I have had a problem with pornography for many years and had tried in vain to deal with it on my own. Because of the negative aspect of such a problem, it was something that I was too ashamed to talk to anyone else about, including my parents, friends and even my wife. I went to the Bishop on occasion to talk to him and to get counsel and guidance. Most of the counsel I received was that I should read my scriptures more, pray harder, and/or sing hymns when I was being tempted. I took that counsel to heart but I just couldn’t understand why that didn’t work for me. I finally moved into a ward where the Bishop was familiar with InnerGold and referred me to the program. I was taught that I had become addicted to pornography and that I needed to ‘rewire my brain’ because I had allowed the addiction to control my reaction to certain stimuli. The program has helped me develop techniques that help me to understand how to deal with the addiction and how to break the addiction cycle. One of the most important aspects of the program, for me, is the opportunity to discuss the addiction with others who are struggling with similar issues. Most of the people I have met in the program are people who have testimonies of the Gospel but who are struggling with the ‘second life’ they are living as pornography addicts. I always felt alone trying to deal with the problem, even after visiting the Bishop I still felt like I was left by myself to figure things out. The InnerGold program has given me an outlet to share my feelings, my fears and my successes in an understanding environment. I will admit that I haven’t been perfect, I have had setbacks but I feel much better equipped to deal with these setbacks now that I have been involved with InnerGold. I finally feel like somebody understands what I am going through and has given me the appropriate tools to deal with the pornography addiction. These tools continue to help me even though I have recently moved from Utah and I am no longer able to go to group or individual sessions. I do continue to participate in the program through the InnerGold website, the InnerGold e-mails, and especially the manual. I feel that these have been a great boost to my ability to deal with my addiction on a daily basis.
- Anonymous
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"Yep. I just finished reading the manual after buying it yesterday. I wanted to quickly thank you. It was great. Finally something that right on described what I have experienced and a thoughtful, clear, appropriate means to proceed. The manual struck me to a tee. I feel charged and better. Time to recover my wasted time! Again.....thanks for pointing me towards awareness."
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“I finally found the help that I’ve been searching for. Before coming to Gordon my addiction was consuming and controlling my life. For the first time in over 10 years I’ve been sober for over a year. Without the information presented in his treatment manual I know I would still be acting out. Finally something that has helped me understand my addiction and given me hope I’ve long been searching for. I have tried numerous things in the past such as 12 step Sexual Addiction groups and other therapists. Not until I came to Gordon with his understanding of addiction and how the brain works was I able to find the help that I’ve been looking for. I would encourage anyone who seriously wants help with pornography addiction to get the manual read it, apply its principles and begin living a sober productive life. - M.A.
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For those who won’t seek out professional help – let experienced professional help come to you in the form of The InnerGold Treatment Manual.
This manual should be read by anyone in the helping professions or anyone who wants to gain a deeper understanding of pornography addiction.
“After meeting with Gordon my husband came home with the treatment manual. When my husband was at work I picked up the manual and read it from cover to cover. It changed my life! I now have hope that my husband can get better. There is a certain power in the manual that fosters hope. I would encourage every wife to read it!” -C.C. wife of an addict
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"Your manual is wonderful and I have learned much thus far…"
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“When I found out that my husband had a pornography addiction I was sick. My first reaction was to leave him. It made me feel that I wasn’t good enough, that it was my fault because I wasn’t pretty enough or available enough. This has been the hardest thing for me to deal with in my life. It is only through therapy and gaining the information in Gordon’s treatment manual that I’ve been able to stay with my husband. I now understand what an addiction is and how it develops. I understand that my husband is not a terrible person but a sick person who needs help. I now understand how the addicted brain works and why pornography is so destructive. I’m so grateful that my husband has found this help. He was embarrassed by this addiction and didn’t know where to find help. He was very skeptical that anything could help him. We are continuing to work through this but our relationship is better now than it has been in years. Despair, anger and frustration has been replaced by hope. Thank you Gordon!
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“Before reading the manual I wondered if I was crazy or not. No matter how many times I would swear off the addiction I would go back to it. My actions filled my life with utter despair. I had lost all hope of ever living a sober life. I really hated myself and felt I was good for nothing. When I began to understand how the limbic part of the brain works and gained information on how to deal with it my hope resurfaced. Understanding the two part brain makes so much sense and gives so much hope. I wish I had come across this information 10 years ago.” -R.T
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"I personally finally found long-term sobriety after 15 years as an addict once I understood these things and did the necessary daily exercises to become more spiritually minded and strengthen the nervous systems in my brain and in strengthening my spirit. I have been sober for over 2 years."
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